So, you're an East Asian studies minor? You have a favorite manga-to-anime adaptation? When I say "Chinese," you say, "from what province? But perhaps unlike many Asian females, I don't believe that non-Asian guys who like Asian women, even those white guys who predominantly date Asian women, are necessarily racist.
How do you navigate the dating world when some view your ethnicity as a fetish?
As a black woman, I'm tired of being fetishized - HelloGiggles
Shawna Ayoub Ainslie is a writing coach and essayist who writes on issues of race, place and survivorship at The Honeyed Quill [honeyquill. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Be honest. Ask how to make it right.
Why I Dated A Guy Who Fetishized Me For Being A Black Woman
This copy is for your personal non-commercial use only. When she processed his words later, she became even more disgusted with the racial remark. In fact, aside from sex, she says, he seemed to look down on her race.
Too personal? Online daters often wear their preferences on their sleeves. Note: There are myriad fetishes.